“A change of heart on the inside, a change of life on the outside.”
If we live long enough, and my guess is that most of us have, we will have found ourselves having experienced the curveballs of loss, grief, disappointment, betrayal and hurt tossed our way, at some of the most unexpected and inconvenient times in our lives, experiences which if not stewarded well, have the potential to harden our once soft hearts and thwart the full realization of what was God’s original intention and design for our lives.
We live in a fallen world, and hurt just seems to be inevitable reality, something we certainly don’t volunteer to experience, but something we cannot dodge nonetheless. A parent says something, a spouse does not keep his/her word, a boss yells in an outburst of anger, a neighbor gives the cold shoulder, and the list of such incidents that can cause us to make promises like, “I will NEVER let that happen to me again!” seems endless. In our vehement quest to self-protect, we actually self-sabotage. We fasten padlocks on our hearts and refuse to ever trust again. I mean really trust. I can vouch for it, because I’ve been there.
But the good news is that we don’t have to stay there. In and through a relationship with Jesus Christ, we can move on. Instead of staying bitter, angry and resentful; we can choose to forgive simply because WE have been forgiven first. As I write, the part where Peter questions Jesus comes to mind,
“Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord,how many times shall I forgive my brother when he sins against me?Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you not seven times, but seventy seven times.'”
I believe Jesus said so because no matter how many times we forgive, He has forgiven us even more. He bore our sins on Himself so that we may be set free. Scripture says that He whom the Son of Man has set free, is free indeed. Then, tell me, why must we allow ourselves to be bound by unforgiveness?
As believers in Christ, we have the power to choose. We can choose to let our hearts remain hardened by the poison of unforgiveness, or we can choose to release forgiveness to our offenders, trusting God to vindicate us. The latter is definitely what would please The Father, because it not only demonstrates our trust in Him to avenge us, but also allows us to keep our hearts soft, supple and tender for the work of God to continue in and through our lives.
A powerful yet not too popular tool to release forgiveness is to pray for those that have caused us harm. The Bible tells us to. In my experience, this is one of the most potent tools that God uses to shape our hearts, leaving us forever changed. Not only does this allow us to release our toxic emotions to God in a sacred, secret, sanctified space;but also trust Him to work in our lives in a way that brings about true and authentic restoration. It is often said that hurting people hurt others. The same people, when trusted in the Hands of God, can have the opportunity to not only heal and become whole; but also be transformed to an extent that they themselves morph into instruments of healing and wholeness in the world that is around and about them.
Friends, this picture of true restoration revives my soul. It makes me acutely aware of the fact that we not only have the privilege to forgive, but also owe it to the world because our prayers carry weight. As they ascend to the Throne room of Grace, Our Father goes to work in ALL of our hearts to make them His.
Isn’t that what we are after, to begin with?
Suffice to say, a change of heart on the inside is something that may seem subtle, but in fact, is so potent that it can literally spark off a movement of the Love and Light of Christ to shine forth so bright that our very lives would be a threat to the kingdom of darkness. So, as I close, let us say in unison,
“Father, let Your Kingdom come, Your Will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.”
Amen.
